Every failure offers a lesson and an opportunity to learn something new and start over. If you want to succeed, you need to embrace your failures.
It’s Monday and I already failed. It was my first day of the 75 Hard challenge and I failed to complete it.
Just in case you’ve never heard of the challenge, I’ll explain what the rules are that you have to follow for 75 days straight.
To start with, you’re supposed to have two 45-minute workouts and one of them has to be done outside. Also, they have to be at least two hours apart.
You also have to drink a gallon of water for the day. The challenge originally came from the US, so for us in the UK it would be eight pints of water every single day – that’s a lot of water.
Furthermore, you have to read 10 pages every day. Audiobooks don’t count as it has to be a physical book.
Also, you have to follow a diet. It doesn’t matter what kind of diet as long as you choose a healthy diet and stick to it. It could be keto, paleo, low-fat diet, whatever. Cheat meals or alcohol during these 75 days are not allowed.
Finally, every single day you have to take a progress picture.
Many people would say that 75 Hard is a fitness challenge, but I see it more as a mindset thing. And I wanted to do this challenge 75 days before Christmas Eve.
I decided I was going to follow a restricted calories diet – it wasn’t supposed to be that difficult. I was tracking my calories the whole day, but I accidentally had too many calories for dinner. It wasn’t much and it wouldn’t even make any difference, really.
I could have said, “It’s not over by a lot and it’s not even my fault. I’m new to this challenge.” But I decided to cut the excuses and embrace my failure instead.
Needless to say, I failed on day one.
As I said, 75 Hard is all about mindset and exercising your mindset muscle.
That’s the reason that I’m starting over – I won’t let this failure stop me from achieving my goals.
I suggest you do the same, just as soon as you learn how to embrace your failures and get the most out of them.
Embracing failure starts with having the right mindset. These tips will help you make the right shift and look at failures at a different light.
Accept Responsibility Without Beating Yourself Up
Embracing failure means accepting that we’re responsible for it. It means not blaming anyone or anything – outer circumstances, your colleagues, or your partner.
Because only when we accept that we’re responsible for something will we be able to change it. If you believe that it’s someone else’s fault, it means you don’t have power over it and you can’t change it.
On the other hand, you’re taking your power back by accepting responsibility.
There are two types of people in this regard. The first type always blames others for their problems. Meanwhile, the other group always blames themselves and they often criticise themselves too hard.
Neither of these extremes is good.
There’s no point in beating yourself up over something you can’t change because it could prevent you from starting over. It could make you nervous, anxious, and sad. It’s not the end of the world. It’s only one failure and you’ll have many chances to start over.
So, accept responsibility but don’t be too hard on yourself. Embrace the failure and then move on. It happens to everyone – even the best of the best.
See the Failure as a Lesson
You should no longer see failure as something bad. Instead, you should see it as a lesson and an opportunity to grow.
This is a mind shift that could change your life.
They say that failure is only failure if you don’t learn anything from it. And I couldn’t agree more. The failure is there to teach you something, so you have to make sure that you understand the lesson.
You can’t learn everything by reading books and listening to courses. While you can learn a lot from someone else’s experience, you can’t learn everything. There are some things that everyone has to go through and challenges to face on our own.
That’s the only way to grow as an individual and as a businessperson.
Also, failure only means that you were brave enough to try something. And those who never fail are those who never try new things. That means they always stay in the safe harbour. They don’t get to learn new things and they don’t get to expand their world.
Embrace your failures as they’re valuable lessons. If you manage to accept this world view and start being grateful for your failures, you’ll see how everything around you changes.
Focus on the Journey, Not the End Result
We love goals. There’s nothing wrong with them as they’re what keeps us going even during the tough times.
However, it’s very easy to start focusing only on the end result, on your final goal. And what ends up happening is that you don’t get to enjoy the journey.
You miss many opportunities to grow and enjoy along the way because all you want is to reach the goal as soon as possible. And if you don’t reach it, you end up disappointed.
You may think that you did everything in vain. But that’s not true.
If you learned one thing along the way, if you met one interesting person, or improved one skill, then your effort wasn’t in vain. But you won’t see these things if you focus solely on the end result.
Remember that I failed my 75 Hard challenge on day one. But I’m sure a lot of people fail later on. If you try it and get to day 74 but break one rule, blowing up the whole challenge, does that mean your journey was in vain?
I wouldn’t say so.
Even though I didn’t get to complete the challenge, you’ve learned so many things along the way. You’ve improved your health and fitness, you’ve read all those amazing books, and you’ve been working on your discipline. But the person who focuses only on completing the challenge can’t see all of this.
So, wherever you are, take a second to appreciate the journey. Appreciate how far you’ve come no matter what the final outcome may be.
Nothing worth having comes easy. Yes, some people achieved their goals in the first attempt, but they’re not the majority.
I’d rather say that succeeding at the first attempt is an exception.
Everyone who has achieved anything big must have been very patient. They had to stay with their goal way longer than you think. And that’s the key reason for their success.
Just because you don’t see any results doesn’t mean nothing is happening.
Think of it like sowing a plant. You have to be patient for months because it looks like it isn’t growing. And then, suddenly, you get to reap.
The same goes for everything in life. Just like you won’t see the results of your new diet instantly, you won’t be able to see the results of your business strategy immediately.
If you want to be a VITAL accounting firm, you need to have long-term plans and stay patient.
A good accountant isn’t the one that provides quick-fixes. Instead, a good accounting firm can do so much more for their clients. That’s why you have to look for clients that understand that good things take time.
Also, a VITAL accounting firm doesn’t provide quick solutions and instant gratifications for its clients. Rather, it helps them achieve their long-term results.
That’s how they become successful in the long run.
Be Mindful of Your Self-Talk
When we fail, we often think that society sees us as a failure. We think that everyone is disappointed – our teammates, our friends, even our family. But that’s often not the case. The people around us are often less judgemental of ourselves than us.
It’s your thoughts and self-talk that make you believe that others think poorly of you.
Stop for a second and ask yourself this question:
Would you think that your spouse is a failure just because they had a minor setback in their workplace?
Of course you won’t!
So why would you think that about yourself?
After a failure, we often find excuses not to try again. We tell ourselves we’re not good, we’re too old, we’re too young, or that we don’t have everything we need to succeed. But that’s just your mind preventing you from trying again.
If you want to unlock your potential, the first step is to become aware of your self-talk. Are you lifting yourself up or are you putting yourself down?
Identify your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs and work on getting rid of them.
It’s a process that can take a while. But it’s such a powerful process that it can help you change the way you see yourself and the world.
Embrace Your Failure
In business and in life, failures are inevitable. But there’s something you can change:
The way you look at them.
Start by learning to accept responsibility for your failures without being too hard on yourself. It’s not the end of the world. Treat your failures as valuable lessons and see what you can learn from them.
When you change the way you deal with failure, everything will change for you. You won’t be afraid to try new things because you won’t be afraid of failing at them anymore.
And that’s where growth happens.
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